Obviously the whole Friend Zone idea is completely wrong-headed, but I have a problem with the swath of articles demonizing people who have the friend zone mentality. The perspective from those articles seems to be that those guys just can’t conceive of women as people. Ergo they’re misogynistic douchenozzles or whatever.
The problem I have with that is that as someone who has always had ADHD, empathizing with anyone, men or women or other, is inherently difficult for me. The concept of the “friend zone” puts words to my own adolescent confusion over relationships and romance. Empathy’s hard if you can’t intuit it. And if you don’t have good empathy, it’s really confusing when you start having all these strong romantic feelings for people who don’t reciprocate.
Again, I’ll reinforce that I think the whole Friend Zone thing is pretty crap. But there also isn’t a very good social framework to teach people who aren’t just born with empathy how to be considerate of other people. And it sucks to have ADHD, stumble through life without anybody teaching you how emotions work, and then get demonized as a misogynist dirt bag when you get frustrated at someone for being hard to understand.
At a certain point the burden does rest on the individual to just figure that stuff out. That’s not really a controversial idea. But by the same token, anyone attempting to advocate and push a social cause also has to bear the responsibility of understanding the other side of the story. Caricaturing and vilifying people with neurobehavioral disorders just encourages animosity for people who are already at a social disadvantage.
Of course, any time you go around criticizing feminist arguments, you’re bound to attract exactly the wrong type of supporters.
Just don’t let the German nihilists find out about it
It was Jackie Treehorn’s thugs you ignorant cunt.
Actually, allow me to rephrase… Fuck you. Ignorance can be corrected with a little information, thanks, but a shitty attitude will haunt your life until the day you die. I actually hope it does, you’ve shown you deserve it. So long, lad!
I haven’t seen Poe’s law deliver so much butthurt. Chill out dude, if anybody seriously thought it was worth bitching at you over who peed on a rug, it isn’t even worth your time to call them out. You whiny little shithead.
So this sort of shit makes me feel like an incredible asshole. I’ve always been aware of that stereotype of the rabid coffee drinker who is the grumpiest piece of shit until he’s had his coffee fix, but somehow my idea had always been “Christ, that guy’s an asshole, people like that are just shitty and need to have some self-control.” I mean, if you know that not having coffee will make you grumpy, you should probably take some mental steps to prepare yourself for unfavorable human interactions, right? Just take the modicum of time to breath deeply, and keep your head low until you’ve got that caffeine in your system.
Well it turns out I’m a huge asshole and a shitty person because I’ve been doing that for like a week now. Every day for quite a while now I’ve had some serious cravings to make myself cups of tea. I even have this huge John Wayne mug that has the collective residue of hundreds of cups of tea over the years caked on the inside, which I’m kind of proud of. But yeah, I’ve been drinking nonstop. I ran out of coffee a little while ago. I also kept catching myself blowing up on people and just feeling like an utter piece of shit.
Anyway I figured enough is enough, I need the big guns. Literally the only coffee in the house is a jar of instant, which tastes like shit, so I mixed a french press full with two scoops of instant coffee and one scoop of Ovaltine to compensate (I mean that’s still gross but it’s kind of less gross), and within a few minutes I felt pretty awesome again. So apparently caffeine was the problem. But I’d been drinking tea the whole time? How do twelve cups of tea not add up to two cups of coffee? Coffee only has like three times the caffeine density.
I felt like unwinding so I made a cup of tea, and I looked at the box and in little letters I find out that shit’s decaffeinated. Look, family, I feel really bad about acting like a total piece of shit on you and blowing up all week. But you brought it upon yourselves pulling that fucking switcharoo on me. Also I still think that people who are jerks when they don’t have their coffee are still assholes, but I think my eyes have been opened to the plight of coffee assholes, and I’m sorry for hating you. But get your act together you fucks.
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